Family Issues

Finally, after 5 years of working so hard, you are almost there towards your goal of improving your career. This situation entails with you more duties and responsibilities that you know you can handle. However because of one small mistake, of having unsafe sex, and now you’ll become a mother, you’ll have to choose how to handle this situation. Its career versus family life, this is like the character of Felicity Huffman in desperate Housewives who eventually gave up her career for family life. If you’re a woman who is more into her career but still wants to be adventurous, practicing safe sex will help you out.

One method is the progestin method. This method synthesizes the hormones to prevent the production of eggs by the female. Such methods here are the implants, the shots and the progestin only pills.

The implants which are sold now are mostly Norplant, since the implants have been no longer available. It is a cardboard matchstick that is inserted on the skin of the upper arm. Your upper arm will be numbed by the physician with painkillers then a small cut will be made to insert the 6 capsules. It will usually take effect within 24 hours. It contains the hormone levonorgestrel which thickens the cervical mucus. It prevents the sperm from joining the egg or sometimes stops the ovulation process. Removal of the capsules must be made after 7 years and 5 years for overweight women, as it may cause menstrual problems.

However there are some disadvantages and precautions on using Norplant. She should not use Norplant when she is pregnant, has had breast cancer, unexplained bleeding in the vaginal area. Norplant also produces certain side effects such as headache, nausea, acne, depression, weight gain, and nervousness. Removal is also difficult in some cases. Norplant also causes severe problems but are very rare such as new lump in your breast (a third nipple maybe, just kidding), heavy bleeding, stomach aches, arm pain and sever headaches.

The other method is the shot, it may sound like an execution of your future plans to have a baby, but its not. It contains a hormone that is similar to the progesterone that is produced by the woman’s ovaries and is shot every 12 weeks. It works the same way as Norplant that it prevents the sperm from joining the egg and also stops the ovulation.

The advantages of taking the shot is that cancer of the uterus can be prevented. Another advantage of taking the shot is that women who have depression, high blood pressure, at risk at heart attack, and history of abnormalities in the liver can take the shot as long as supervised by professionals. The same precautions as Norplant should be taken when taking the shot. The side effects of the shot are the same as implants plus skin rash and change in sex drive. The serious problems are the same as the implants too except for the presence or development of yellowish eyes.

The last progestin method is the POP pills. These are not drugs or candies but are really used for safe sex methods as well. They are extremely similar with the first tow methods as to how they work. However pills must be taken everyday at the same time and pregnancy can still happen if pills are taken in the wrong order, too late in the cycle and 3 hours past the time it should have been taken. The precautionary measure, the side effects, the disadvantages and advantages of using POP pills are the same as the Shot and Implants.

These are 3 ways by medication that you can be able to save your career and still have some fun.

Most teenagers are curios about sex. Maybe it’s not their fault, but is mostly a result of the raging hormones that teenagers have. They would need a way to release the surge in hormones or else the might die. Ok dying is way overboard. Most of them become curious and enter into sexual relationships during this time. But if you’re child is a loser or dork, have no fear, he’s safe from the temptation. But when he is able to find a female loser that’s also so curious, and then read on.

It is better as parent to be able to discuss safe sex with his child as early as possible (and I’m not talking about the birds and the bees’ speech.). It would be better to discuss this earlier. So that when his hormones start going into hyper driver, he or she should know what the proper ways of handling the situation. It may be very awkward for some parents but to make it easy, just remember the same thing your father went through with you. (Or maybe you should stick with the birds and the bees with a little mature thing with it)

On a serious note, here are some things you can consider discussing with your child. How he or she should be practicing safe sex. To prevent unwanted pregnancies that may destroy his or her dreams or have sexually transmitted diseases.

There are four methods to safe sex, the reversible non prescription methods, combined hormone methods, progestin-only methods and the behavioral methods. Each method may have varying results again depending on the person. Let us discuss here the method of behavioral methods.

The behavioral methods include the abstinence method, the withdrawal method, LAM and the outer course method. The abstinence method is the most effective way to prevent pregnancy and transmitted disease. This method however is also the hardest method to do, despite its simplicity. The only thing to do here is that the man and the woman do not maintain sexual contact, but both would need to be very strong-willed in their belief on abstaining from sex.

The withdrawal method is usually used by couples, who have great self control, men who do not ejaculate prematurely, and men who are already experienced. This method is not that full proof because thee is always a chance that sperm may be left behind. Even the smallest amount of semen that enters into the vulva will cause the woman to be pregnant. This method is usually used when no other safety method is available and definitely not suggested for teenagers.

The outer course is what some people say is a safer way to sex because some methods involve no penetration in the vagina or no penetration at all. Some ways to practice outer course methods are through masturbation (either alone or with the partner), kissing, body to body rubbing that may include their sex organs, erotic massage, fantasize through the internet, shows, etc., sex toys such as vibrators, oral sex play and anal sex play. Through outer course it may make sex play longer and increase intimacy. This is also safe way because it will have no medical or hormonal side effects and there will is more chances that semen and vaginal fluids are not exchanged.

The LAM method (Lactation Amarhea Method) is a method for women to help them in postponing ovulation. This is done by making the woman do continuous breast feeding as it stimulates the hormone prolactin and prevents the release of another needed for ovulation. However the LAM method is only effective for the 1st six months of the woman’s pregnancy and the woman hasn’t had a period since she gave birth and suckles baby 6 times a day on both breast.

Hope that by discussing these methods with your children it may help prevent you from being a young grandparent. There are methods to choose from, if you do not see the methods of behavioral prevention that effective.

Raising a family or entering into the family life is no joke. That’s why parents always freak out about practicing safe sex to their children. Because when unsafe sex has been practiced by their children it my lead their children to a sudden and unexpected world. This world that they will enter will certainly be hard and my cause some people their dreams.

Due to unsafe sex, many people end up being pregnant. When it comes to the point that they learn that they are pregnant, those who are not planned for this responsibility become freaked out. When this happens, women most of the time end up on the losing side. In some situations the women’s partner would not want to share the responsibility of the pregnancy. That is why sometimes the women becomes afraid, especially those that have great plans fro themselves to enter into a critical ethical dilemma. Some, especially those with Christian backgrounds, would become confused as to be a single parent or enter into abortion.

Abortion is the way that some women choose to end her unintended pregnancy. According to statistics, the number of women in the United States alone is at an alarming rate of 1.31 million in a year. This is a result of a woman having more than one unplanned pregnancy in their lifetime. More research says that half the women in the United States when they reach 45 have undergone abortion already.

Aside from the stated reasons above here are some other reasons why some women opt for abortion.
• She does not want anyone to know she is pregnant nor had sex.
• Cannot afford the baby
• Outside influence by the family or friends
• Fetus has  a health problem
• She has all the babies she needs (expanding the family is no longer an option)
• The pregnancy was due to rape or incest
• Immaturity

When faced with this situation, it is best to ask help from experts who have gone through this situation. It is best for you to really think about the moral consequences of having a child aborted. When in doubt open up to a family member or a close friend, if you would not want anyone to know go to a councilor to ask help first. There are other ways to escape the responsibility of abortion without murdering the fetus, one option can be abortion. In some cases, the woman is required tot ell her parent or her legal guardian about the abortion she plans. Usually this happens when the woman is still a teenager.

If you have made up your mind, try to have it done as early as possible. As the longer abortions are postponed the more dangerous it can be. Most abortions done in the second trimester are merely 11 percent compared to 90% in the first trimester.

The abortion may only give you cramp pains as the painkillers will help reduce pain. However remember that it will not be you that will feel most of the pain but the fetus. Although no one can tell if the fetus can experience pain, what is being done to the fetus is unjustifiable. Maybe you deserve the little cramp that you get for having it aborted. It’s only the little fair way that fetus pays back.

After the abortion different women may feel different things. Some may feel relieved that the problem is over (sounds sadistic? let’s just respect their reasons for being so). Some may feel depressed and some may feel angry. Even though no research proves this, men may have a bad day as well after the woman who had abortion has emotional difficulties.

Although times may be changing and abortion has become open to some culture and society, it is hard to fathom a future baby or human being be disposed of. It is quite a scary thought for a woman to enter in that kind of situation. Personally if I were to enter in that situation, I will be in am ethical dilemma as well. Bottom line is, if you really are in love with the person or just plain horny, always practice safe sex. So that we may prevent the situation where one has to go through abortion.